When Networking Isnt Networking

When Networking Isnt Networking I was chatting with a networking buddy about going to a formal, weekly networking event designed to meet the needs of professionals in transition when he said something profound: Dont confuse going to a networking function with real networking. That made me think about my networking efforts over the last year (since I got laid off). There are different types of events that Ive been to Ill list the ones I can remember here and any thoughts about the value of each one. The point is pick your events carefully! Not all networking functions are the same! I hope that this list gives you ideas of how to find events that are useful to you: Weekly professionals-in-transition network meetings: This is a church-sponsored weekly event (there are three locations close to my house) and like the Between Jobs Ministry in Houston, it doesnt matter what religion you are (or arent). The style varies by location but overall these are excellent events. It really started getting valuable to me when we break up into smaller groups (one place has groups of about 6 professionals) and we had about an hour to talk about specific needs of each person and how we could help eachother. Everyone was actively networking and job searching in the community so there were lots of leads passed around the table. Very cool. Utah Bloggers Conference: Last year in June there was a conference I heard of through a daily e-mail I get from UtahBusiness.com. I seriously thought Id be the only one there but by the time I got there the room was full about 120 people total (some driving a couple of hours to get there). It was an awesome conference and I developed some relationships that continue to this day it was great to be in a setting where people werent looking for a job! Supposedly theres another one in March and Ill definitely be there! Rocky Mountain Affiliate Marketing Association: I was invited by my friend Janet Meiners (Newspapergrl) to go to this association meeting with about 20 others. This is a group of people that make money by having websites that sell other peoples stuff. It was an amazing meeting (they meet monthly) that lasted more than 4 hours (lunch was included) there was a ton of brainstorming, idea sharing, etc. Janet was actually looking for a new job and afterwards one of the group leaders said that there might be a position open at his company. Can you say hidden job market? Generic Job Fair: I got an e-mail from some obscure website about a job fair that was coming to town. This was one of the first months that I was unemployed so I still didnt know what was going on. I went, though, only to find a very poorly organized event. There were about nine employers and about 200 people with resumes in hand. No one was there to network, just be the first in line to pass resumes. I was looking for a higher-level position than what anyone there had to offer and left early, discouraged. I havent been back since. Community College Career Fair: I learned about a local community college career fair and thought Id go see what was there. I found a bunch of employers with booths who were mainly looking for low-level, low-paying positions. Even the recruiters that were there werent looking for anyone high-level. Again, I left early, discouraged. (I could have networked, I guess, but I wasnt in the mood to network with college students that seemed clueless about why they were there) Austin Bloggers Dinner, Houston Bloggers Breakfast: When I was in Texas a few weeks ago I reached out to some bloggers that I had relationships with to see if we could hook up in person and break bread. These were incredible events, very informal and fun. We had lots in common, and we already knew one another to one degree or another because of the blogs. Getting together was incredible and the feeling of how can I help you was abundant. Salt Lake Bloggers Dinner: We started this last month after my trip to Texas. We had five people out and an awesome time chatting about all kinds of things I think it went 3 hours! We are doing it every fourth Thursday (or is it every third Thursday??) at the same time, same restaurant. E-mail me for details. Oh, and I just read that the Austin Bloggers Dinner had its second meeting with 16 people (up from 5 when I was there) I think Ive got some work to do! Houston Recruiter Dinner: Not sure how else to phrase that as it was put on by Dan Sweet of FRACAT (that is Free Resume And Career Toolbox). There were about 10 of us at this dinner and it was a blast. It was really interesting to go from a blogger breakfast to this dinner as the dinner had people that had very different interests and needs. But the environment was right, and it was really cool to meet these other people. I keep in touch with a number of the people that went to this event, and having met in person made a huge difference in our relationships. 1-on-1 breakfasts or lunches: over the last year Ive been to at least a couple of dozen one-on-one meals. Usually Id pay because I invited. I would reach out to people that I had an interest in getting to know better. Some of these meals led to a rich relationship, others seemed to go nowhere (in my mind they are just nacent relationships, waiting to grow). But they were always awesome meetings because I got to know the person much better, and they got to know me. Theres nothing like talking with someone in an intimate setting for more than an hour with the sole purpose of finding out more about one another. This has been one of the most effective things Ive done all year to improve my relationships. Utah First Friday: This is a chamber of Commerce type monthly morning meeting where there is networking with name badges and everything! I met lawyers, realtors and small-business providers all trying to promote their stuff to one another. Nothing wrong with the event but the discussions were very superficial, and there was virtually no follow-up. I havent been back. Formal Business Networking for-profit company: a few months back I went to a local place that has formal business networking for a free introductory lunch. Very cool idea, cool company, but it had a hefty price tag (if you joined), and was geared towards local businesses selling to local businesses. It just wasnt for me I met some very cool people but my business is not for a local market. I havent been back, even for the free lunch (and thats significant!). What are the events you like, or dislike? Any advice on how to find excellent opportunities to find new network contacts? When Networking Isnt Networking I was chatting with a networking buddy about going to a formal, weekly networking event designed to meet the needs of professionals in transition when he said something profound: Dont confuse going to a networking function with real networking. That made me think about my networking efforts over the last year (since I got laid off). There are different types of events that Ive been to Ill list the ones I can remember here and any thoughts about the value of each one. The point is pick your events carefully! Not all networking functions are the same! I hope that this list gives you ideas of how to find events that are useful to you: Weekly professionals-in-transition network meetings: This is a church-sponsored weekly event (there are three locations close to my house) and like the Between Jobs Ministry in Houston, it doesnt matter what religion you are (or arent). The style varies by location but overall these are excellent events. It really started getting valuable to me when we break up into smaller groups (one place has groups of about 6 professionals) and we had about an hour to talk about specific needs of each person and how we could help eachother. Everyone was actively networking and job searching in the community so there were lots of leads passed around the table. Very cool. Utah Bloggers Conference: Last year in June there was a conference I heard of through a daily e-mail I get from UtahBusiness.com. I seriously thought Id be the only one there but by the time I got there the room was full about 120 people total (some driving a couple of hours to get there). It was an awesome conference and I developed some relationships that continue to this day it was great to be in a setting where people werent looking for a job! Supposedly theres another one in March and Ill definitely be there! Rocky Mountain Affiliate Marketing Association: I was invited by my friend Janet Meiners (Newspapergrl) to go to this association meeting with about 20 others. This is a group of people that make money by having websites that sell other peoples stuff. It was an amazing meeting (they meet monthly) that lasted more than 4 hours (lunch was included) there was a ton of brainstorming, idea sharing, etc. Janet was actually looking for a new job and afterwards one of the group leaders said that there might be a position open at his company. Can you say hidden job market? Generic Job Fair: I got an e-mail from some obscure website about a job fair that was coming to town. This was one of the first months that I was unemployed so I still didnt know what was going on. I went, though, only to find a very poorly organized event. There were about nine employers and about 200 people with resumes in hand. No one was there to network, just be the first in line to pass resumes. I was looking for a higher-level position than what anyone there had to offer and left early, discouraged. I havent been back since. Community College Career Fair: I learned about a local community college career fair and thought Id go see what was there. I found a bunch of employers with booths who were mainly looking for low-level, low-paying positions. Even the recruiters that were there werent looking for anyone high-level. Again, I left early, discouraged. (I could have networked, I guess, but I wasnt in the mood to network with college students that seemed clueless about why they were there) Austin Bloggers Dinner, Houston Bloggers Breakfast: When I was in Texas a few weeks ago I reached out to some bloggers that I had relationships with to see if we could hook up in person and break bread. These were incredible events, very informal and fun. We had lots in common, and we already knew one another to one degree or another because of the blogs. Getting together was incredible and the feeling of how can I help you was abundant. Salt Lake Bloggers Dinner: We started this last month after my trip to Texas. We had five people out and an awesome time chatting about all kinds of things I think it went 3 hours! We are doing it every fourth Thursday (or is it every third Thursday??) at the same time, same restaurant. E-mail me for details. Oh, and I just read that the Austin Bloggers Dinner had its second meeting with 16 people (up from 5 when I was there) I think Ive got some work to do! Houston Recruiter Dinner: Not sure how else to phrase that as it was put on by Dan Sweet of FRACAT (that is Free Resume And Career Toolbox). There were about 10 of us at this dinner and it was a blast. It was really interesting to go from a blogger breakfast to this dinner as the dinner had people that had very different interests and needs. But the environment was right, and it was really cool to meet these other people. I keep in touch with a number of the people that went to this event, and having met in person made a huge difference in our relationships. 1-on-1 breakfasts or lunches: over the last year Ive been to at least a couple of dozen one-on-one meals. Usually Id pay because I invited. I would reach out to people that I had an interest in getting to know better. Some of these meals led to a rich relationship, others seemed to go nowhere (in my mind they are just nacent relationships, waiting to grow). But they were always awesome meetings because I got to know the person much better, and they got to know me. Theres nothing like talking with someone in an intimate setting for more than an hour with the sole purpose of finding out more about one another. This has been one of the most effective things Ive done all year to improve my relationships. Utah First Friday: This is a chamber of Commerce type monthly morning meeting where there is networking with name badges and everything! I met lawyers, realtors and small-business providers all trying to promote their stuff to one another. Nothing wrong with the event but the discussions were very superficial, and there was virtually no follow-up. I havent been back. Formal Business Networking for-profit company: a few months back I went to a local place that has formal business networking for a free introductory lunch. Very cool idea, cool company, but it had a hefty price tag (if you joined), and was geared towards local businesses selling to local businesses. It just wasnt for me I met some very cool people but my business is not for a local market. I havent been back, even for the free lunch (and thats significant!). What are the events you like, or dislike? Any advice on how to find excellent opportunities to find new network contacts?

Interests on a Resume

Interests on a ResumeInterests on a resume might seem like a silly question but in fact, it's important to know if the company you're applying for truly knows you or if they can predict what you might be interested in. Depending on the nature of your job and related interests, there are usually a number of questions that will indicate whether or not they think you're someone they want on their team.It's important to realize that the company you're applying for may be interested in knowing a little bit about your interests outside of work. If you can't even describe them, it's possible that you have something in common with the position that might disqualify you. That doesn't mean, however, that you can't describe what you're interested in, though. For example, if you've listed things like 'all kinds of music' in your career profile, ask about those interests and use them as clues about the kind of music you like. Then use this information to highlight the interests on a resume you sh ould highlight when you submit yours.If you do have some hobbies or activities outside of work that are similar to the things listed in your profile, be sure to mention them. You don't have to list every event, hobby, or interest that fits your profile but you can choose one or two that you'd like to highlight. Also, make sure to list them separately from the jobs or interests that come up during the screening process. That way, they're in separate sections on your resume, making it easier to tell whether you're included in the part that mentions what you're interested in.When you're applying for a job in a field that requires an overlap between your work and the things you like to do, be sure to list those related activities or jobs as well. There are plenty of examples of these in the work world. For example, if you're a writer who also likes to take pictures, it's likely that you'll have a portfolio of work that may include photos taken while you were working on your day job.Inte rests on a resume are going to vary from job to job. It's important to find out whether or not the company has a policy that requires you to list them. While it's true that employers are more likely to look at your interests when you're applying for something that requires some of your skills or interests, it's possible to turn down a job opportunity based on what the company thinks is an inappropriate list. It's especially important to mention your hobbies or other activities outside of work, as well as your work experience, when you're applying for a position that requires overlap.Even if you've been offered an interview and you have a phone interview scheduled, keep in mind that your interests may still be relevant even if you've been turned down. Your resume is going to be the first thing that a hiring manager sees, so it's your only chance to say something about yourself. With many companies offering online applications now, it's always a good idea to read through your resume a nd make sure it matches the skills, experience, and education you've listed on your cover letter.Try to list something that really stands out from the other choices that you're given based on the work you've done. Whether that's an event you attended or something you're particularly passionate about, it's something that you can highlight on your resume.The best way to get a job if you're trying to get into a field that will be related to what you enjoy doing or that involves the things you've mentioned on your resume is to list something that's truly unique to you. If the company you're applying for can't find anything about you on their own, they might ask you to highlight one or two interests on a resume that you didn't mention in your cover letter.

How Can Companies Hire International Candidates - Personal Branding Blog - Stand Out In Your Career

How Can Companies Hire International Candidates - Personal Branding Blog - Stand Out In Your Career Last week, I talked about why companies should hire international candidates. This week, I will explain how companies can hire international candidates. Companies can hire international candidates with the right paperwork and this is not as costly as the employers think. The biggest amount is the fee that you pay to an immigration attorney to fill out the paperwork and the rest is a small amount that you pay to the government. You need to negotiate the attorney’s fee to cut your costs. Now, let’s look at the most common work visa, H-1B, for hiring international candidates. H-1B is a nonimmigrant visa that allows foreigners to work for a temporary amount of time in the United States. The employee cannot apply for H-1B visa himself. The employer should apply for him. The reason for this is that the H-1B visa is tied to the sponsoring employer as well as the job roles and responsibilities. Also, H-1B jobs usually require a bachelor’s degree or higher, so the employee should have completed at least a bachelor’s degree. This degree may have been completed in the US or in another country. An H-1B visa is valid for three years, but it can be extended an additional three years, meaning that an international employee can work for six years under an H-1B visa. The H-1B fiscal year starts on October 1, and the application period for that fiscal year starts on April 1. For example, if you want your employee’s H-1B visa to start on October 1, then it is recommended to file the application by April 1. The reason for this is that there is a quota on the number of H-1B visas that can be issued per year. If it is filed later, for example, in August, then your employee may not be able to get the H-1B visa for October 1, because all of the visas may already have been issued. There are only 65,000 H-1B visas available to foreign nationals per year. In addition to this, there are 20,000 H-1B visas available to foreign nationals holding a master’s degree or higher. If your international employee only holds a bachelor’s degree, then he is subject to the 65,000 visa quota. If he holds a master’s degree or higher, his application is filed under the 20,000 visas available for foreign nationals holding higher degrees. If all of the visas under this category are filled up, then he can also get an H-1B visa under the other category that has 65,000 visas available. This means that if he holds an advanced degree, he has more chances of being issued an H-1B visa. However, if he is working for a university or a nonprofit research institution, then he is not subject to any visa limitation. Therefore, the employer can apply for an H-1B visa for him anytime.

The Five Floors of a Relationship

The Five Floors of a Relationship Tommy Spaulding is the author of “It’s Not Just Who You Know,” a book that builds on Spaulding’s years of experience in building relationships.   He outlines what he calls the “Five Floors of Relationships,” or phases that relationships go through at various stages.   His aim is to help the reader deepen and build upon relationships to create more effective and fulfilling work.   Here is a summary of the Five Floors. Floor One is usually transactional in nature.   We encounter dozens of people a week with whom we exchange simple greetings: the barista at Starbucks, the mailman, the clerk who checks us out at the market. We ask “How are you today” without really expecting much of an answer, and others respond with “Fine, thanks” no matter what they’re really feeling or thinking.   Second Floor relationships offer more opportunity to interact; they may be with people we see at the office or work with sometimes.   They might be neighbors or workers we hire for tasks around the house.   Spaulding identifies these relationships by the depth of our conversation; we usually never get beyond what he calls “NSW:” News, Sports and Weather.   We generally only reveal pleasant parts of our personalities to these casual acquaintances â€" as a rule, we almost never reveal anything intimate. Third Floor relationships are where we begin to offer opinions and thoughts to others; we even feel comfortable enough to debate issues if we have different viewpoints.   We also get to know about each other’s families or lives outside the context of our usual encounter (home, church, work, etc.) But almost always at this stage, there is a perceived barrier to real friendship ; some difference in taste, beliefs or choices that we don’t talk about because it might lead us to a discussion that’s too frank.   “I like you, but not enough to invest in a conversation about why you stick with that brute of a boyfriend,” you think to yourself. In a Fourth Floor relationship, we have broken through that barrier to real friendship.   It’s no longer a question of whether we like each other anymore, and we value the relationship for its own sake.   We’d be friends even if work or another activity didn’t bring us together.   We’ve learned to talk through conflict and trust each other with important thoughts, fears and hopes. In Fifth Floor relationships, we have more than trust; we have empathy.   We actually know what the other person is thinking or feeling before they tell us.   Spaulding says that when you get to the Fifth Floor (which is relatively rare) you become more than friends; you’re each other’s champions, advisors and partners. Spaulding asserts that you begin to be effective at relationship building when you understand where you are with another person (what floor you’re on) and can begin to move the relationship to the next level.   Whether it’s a coworker, your boss, or a neighbor, is there a relationship you could start to strengthen and deepen today?

Writing Apartment Address on Resume

Writing Apartment Address on ResumeIf you are looking for information about writing apartment address on resume, this article is for you. People who have run apartments in the past would know how to handle the renter by making sure that they are taken care of properly and giving the name of the landlord when they give in. To deal with the people who do not return the rent and have no idea what they are doing, you should make them feel uncomfortable. This will surely be noticed and they will give up before they start any trouble.You can find tips on writing apartment address on resume, from those who have been there and done that before. But you cannot follow the steps that they use; instead, you have to put your own style to the letter. You should make it personal, yet professional enough to get the attention of the prospective tenant. As a landlord, you should be pleasant and polite to everyone so that the prospective tenant feels at ease. Make sure you make them feel welcome and th at you are going to be a friend to them.Make it your business to get them in and out of the apartment as quickly as possible. Also remember that the first impression is important. Avoid awkwardness, and make them feel comfortable with you by offering them a drink, or maybe even inviting them to stay over with you for a cup of coffee. Use these situations to warm up the property and make them realize that you are different from all other landlords. Your appointment should also be a positive one.They will definitely pay their rent on time, so do not hesitate to mention this on your resume. You should tell them that you have a full-time employee in charge of the maintenance of the building. This person is given the job because he has shown his dedication to doing good work for the building.He will be responsible for both cooking meals and cleaning the room in the person's apartment. He is also responsible for making sure that the appliances work properly and he also has a name for hims elf as being the 'gut' of the building. His name is surely going to be mentioned on the person's resume and you will gain many clients with this extra information.The person should be told that the building has a laundry service, cleaning services, laundry attendant, and other services to help him or her to clean the room. These services should be mentioned on the person's resume. As a landlord, it is your responsibility to know what you are getting into before you move in. Sometimes you may find problems with your tenants and it is up to you to help them with a problem.If they need help with a problem, you should give them all the different information. Some tenants do not pay their rent on time or they do not keep their apartment clean, but still they are looking for a place to live. It is your duty to find out more about them and what kind of people they are. The tenant will show your apartment to friends and co-workers and this is where you want them to take an interest in your property.This is the information you should write down on your writing apartment address on resume. If you are a landlord, your job is to find the best tenants who will pay their rent on time and who are easy to deal with. In order to build a good relationship with the renter, you should show them that you are nice, friendly, and professional.

5 Tips for Making Your Fortune in Business

5 Tips for Making Your Fortune in Business Pretty much everyone would like to be rich, right? It’s the trick in the question “Who Wants to be a Millionaire?” Not many people would feel inclined to say “no, not me, I don’t like the idea of having lots of money.” It’s a simple fact of life, that like it or not, success in business, and in general, is judged to a significant degree by money. It’s also the case that money is required for the everyday act of existing in the world. You need to buy food, pay the bills, put fuel in your car, and so on. And if you aren’t content with a purely practical existence, you’ll need money to participate in many of the uplifting pastimes and pursuit that give life much of its value. Travelling to new places, taking your kids to Disneyland, even just camping somewhere out of the way and turning your back on civilisation for a while â€" all of these things will cost some money. So, whether for the sake of social clout and recognition, or for the ability to reliably keep a roof over your head, and the heads of those you care about, or in order to open doors to interesting experiences; there are plenty of reasons why you might want to make a tidy fortune in life. But while pretty much everyone, and certainly the majority of those with an entrepreneurial inclination, will want to get rich, it is, of course, easier said than done. Here are some tips for making your fortune. Find an industry or career where you can reasonably expect that a high degree of success will be rewarded by high-earnings You can work excruciatingly hard in life, without ever enjoying a substantial degree of financial success. That’s because income doesn’t correlate directly with hard work, even if hard work is a prerequisite for success in any field. By way of illustration, you could spend 12-hours a day, seven days a week, breaking rocks in the blazing sun. No one would say you weren’t working hard â€" working yourself ragged in fact â€" but you’d never get rich from doing the job, simply because of the nature of the job itself. That’s an extreme example, but the same basic concept holds true in a broader sense, as well. If you want to make your fortune, you need to find an industry or career where you can reasonably expect that a high degree of success will be rewarded by high-earnings. Researching how to start a real estate business, for example, might provide you with the requisite insights to determine that a particular career path in real estate could reliably make you a lot of money. But if you currently work in a run-of-the-mill office job, and the most senior figure in the building earns only slightly more than you, you’re likely not in the right place, if your ambition is to become wealthy. Make sure that the career you’re pursuing is something you find meaningful, not just something that you think might make you rich With all the talk of finding a career where high-earning is a feasible expectation down the line, you could be forgiven for thinking that the correct path is to be purely pragmatic in your career choice, and to think only of the material benefits of a given job. That would, however, be a bad idea. To earn your fortune, you don’t just need to be in the right line of work â€" you also need to be motivated, driven, and focused enough to grind away come rain or shine. While some especially gritty personalities might be able to do that indefinitely for a job they hate, the average person certainly won’t be. To have the level of commitment, focus, and drive required to make a success of yourself in a demanding career, having a sense of higher meaning in your job is very important. If you feel that you’re contributing to the world in some meaningful way, or at least, that you can take pride in your work and not just view yourself as someone who’s obliged to do distasteful things for a living â€" you’ll be much better positioned to thrive and prosper down the years. Adopt a complete-accountability mindset Success guru Jack Canfield has noted in his writings that one of the key defining features of the most successful people in business, is that they have a mindset of complete accountability. That is, they assume that their actions are responsible, in some way, for essentially everything that happens to them. On the one hand, this sounds clearly empowering. Enjoyed success in life? Pat yourself on the back and reflect on how your savvy and virtuous actions yielded results. On the other hand, though, this concept can be extremely daunting for most people, because it also works the other way around. Been falling short of the mark for years? Guess what, you no longer have the luxury of pointing fingers at other people, or external circumstances, even if they were actively working against you. The buck stops with you, which means you have to own your undesirable position in life. But when you adopt this total-accountability mindset, you also empower yourself, totally, to change your life. You begin to focus less on the things you can’t control, and more on the things you can control. This makes you naturally more proactive, creative, and daring. And all of those things increase your odds of success. Get organised like you’ve never been before Making your fortune requires a great amount of attention to detail. Organisation is key to any significant level of success in the business world, and especially if you’ve struggled with being an organised person in the past, you really need to make a point of getting organised like never before. There are many effective systems out there for identifying sticking points in your routine, and collecting and organising all of your assorted tasks, projects, and daily To-Dos. David Allen’s world-renowned “Getting Things Done” system is perhaps the most well-known organisation method going, and by all accounts, it’s proved life-changing for a substantial number of high-flying corporate professionals, and ordinary members of society, alike. Whatever system you choose to use, though, the key thing is that you’re able to get a clear overview of the various tasks you could be doing at any given moment, and from there, can identify and act on the most important tasks. Identify a clear vision of where you want to be in a few years, and practice affirmations to guide you towards success They say that “seeing is believing”, and if you listen to some of the most successful people in the world, they’ll tell you that the ability to set a clear intention, visualise a perfect outcome, and continue to reinforce the idea of success in their minds, has been instrumental in terms of their eventual success. The idea of visualisation and affirmations is kind of New Age on the face of it, and this alone can put some people off. But a variety of success icons ranging from Arnold Schwarzenegger to Richard Branson and Charles Duhigg have apparently used these practices, in one form or another, to secure success in life. Self-belief is very important when you’re seeking your fortune. Imagine what your perfect life and perfect job look like. Then practice routine visualisation and affirmation exercises in order to keep reinforcing your belief in your eventual success. If nothing else, this will help to keep you motivated and moving forward during difficult times.

Why ask, Why

Why ask, Why Job seekers lament over the  lack of feedback employers and recruiters are providing.  They are faced with huge numbers of candidates, and not enough resources. But is that really an excuse? Then theres the risk of legal action. With so many things to consider, its important to keep your cool and realize, sometimes you just wont get the type of response you are looking for. If youve been actively job searching, this should come as no surprise.  One jobseeker sent me the following comment: The once again dismal job market improves the chances of employers just treating their candidates as the commodity without needing or desiring to use even a modicum of proper business like treatment. I truly empathize with those frustrated by lack of feedback or any communication from employers to whom they have interviewed with or sent their resumes.   But on the other hand, who said we were supposed to hear back?    Ok, after an interview, Ill agree, the employer should let you know if you are still being considered, but they dont have to let you know why  you are not a fit.   What would you do with that information anywaychange your personality?   I dont think so. Job Fit is not a science.   Personality is certainly a component, so  are communication style, values and priorities.   We just dont get along with everyone and who really wants to work for someone they dont like? Let me ask this- would you be able to tell an employer exactly why you decided not to accept a jobor exactly why you are leaving a job? If you are smart, you know to keep your reasons general- arent you protecting your reputation?   So whats the difference? One of lifes  lessons is to accept that we cannot change things we have no control over.      Learn what you can,  and move forward!